The following in a piece I wrote for our November Newsletter at church. I read it again when it came out, and I was struck by a few things. Our family just suffered a loss of my great-uncle, and so I was able to mourn and celebrate his life with them this weekend. Family and friends came from all over the world to recognize Chuck's life. One thing that really stuck out to me during his service was how close his family was. His widow, children and grandchildren were all surrounding him- and they did that in unity. It also gave my immediate family a reason to get together, and in spending time with everyone, I realized how unity looks different with different relationships. Blood relations are a blessing most of the time in my life, and I realize how fortunate I am to have that. However, I think that when we choose to invest in those relationships, the way that we do with friends made outside of those familial ties, there are now new requirements of them. It's no longer enough to be family- we need to recognize the need and commonality we share in our willingness to be vulnerable and accountable to and with one another. Hence my tie-in to the newsletter article. How does one navigate the role of family and relationship in a professed-Christian context? The "should-be" versus the "how it is" tends to show up very differently here.
"On our Jr. High retreat this fall, we talked about what our relationships look like with nature, God and each other. It was crazy to see how introducing a single wolf species back into Yellowstone National Park changed not only the food chain, but the river and water structures in the park. We then learned about our relationship with God changes the landscape of our lives- and in the most important ways, with our relationships with each other. The biggest take away there was that we need to feel completely comfortable with one another- be our true selves- so that we can work together to do Kingdom work! While this is definitely challenging for middle and high school students, it's still hard for us as adults. The last speaker asked us to identify what it is in our lives that holds us back from being honest with our fellow believers... what is it for you? Are we fearful of being judged? Jesus calls us to love (Matt. 7:1-29). Are we not willing to be held accountable? Paul tells us that we are to do that as brothers and sisters in Christ (Gal.6:1-5). Do we think we need to be strong enough, or put together enough, to weather life alone? We are a part of the same body. If we believe that we are working in God's project of redemption for this world and all people, then we have to do it together.
"For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body—Jews or Greeks, slaves or free—and all were made to drink of one Spirit. For the body does not consist of one member but of many. If the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body." - 1 Corinthians 12: 12-22
We need each other, in our brokenness and our hurt, just as much as in our wholeness and strength. So what is it that is holding you back from honest, accountable and growing relationships with your brothers and sisters? Are you willing to admit to those withholds and begin to try to live in to an authentic relationships with the members of this church? If we can't do that with one another, who else can we do that with?
This journey to authentic community is what we are striving towards in our youth groups this year, but I would ask the church as a whole to consider what this looks like for us as well. It is challenging, but it is good work, and we aren't alone. Our sustaining God is the support that makes this journey bearable, and he places each other in our lives for a reason. Let us participate in that fully!"
Thoughts?